Let’s face it. We all believe that we know the secret of how to raise a child. And those who see things differently, are wrong.
We, as adults, take a lot of pride in our children and we think we are raising them to be successful and kind adults. But the research shows that there are around four types of parenting with many differences among them.
Do you know which parenting style is yours?
1. The Authoritative Style:
For starters, there is the authoritative style. Parents impose strict rules, which when are broken are followed by punishments.
The child has nothing to say in those rules, she/he simply has to obey my commands “because I have said so.’’ Usually, the parents have high expectation from their child, academically and morally and do not take into consideration the child’s preferences.
The consequences for the child is that he grows up and becomes an adult obedient, with low self-esteem. He might be efficient in his professional life because he knows how to follow the rules, but he will be unhappy in his personal life.
Depending on the child personality, he can become very dependable on his loved one, or aggressive.
2. The Democratic Style:
The parents set up precise, logical and flexible rules. They take into consideration the child’s choices. When the rules are broken, the parents discuss with the child, and they offer him acceptable behaviors.
Parents are attentive and responsive to the emotional needs of the child, and they communicate very well with their child.
Here, the child may grow up and be an emotionally balanced adult, independent and happy. He will trust himself and his capacities and he will be able to find solutions to daily problems and will be able to get over emotional issues too.
3. The Permissive Style:
The parents are indulgent with their child. They have very few clear rules which are applied from time to time. They give up quickly to the child’s desires.
They tend to avoid confrontation, and they do not make the child responsible for his action. They are very protective of their child and communicate well with him. They tend to see themselves as friends, not as just parents.
The consequences of this parenting style are not so favorable for the child. The child may turn into an unhappy and selfish adult, immature and irresponsible. He might have a low tolerance for frustration and difficulties in social relationships. More than that, there is the tendency to underperform at academics subject.
4. The Neglectful Style:
Even it might seem hard to admit; there are parents who neglect their child. The parents usually don’t have expectation or request from him.
The communication is weak and non-existent, and they offer little affection to the child. They limit themselves to provide the basic needs of the child, such as food and sleep and they neglect the emotional needs totally.
This parenting style has the most devastating effects on a child. The adult may have control problems, low self-esteem and will tend to have issues with the law. The adult may find it difficult to be in social surroundings.
It is a right moment to evaluate your parenting style and be honest with yourself. Be very careful on how you decide to raise your child because you shape the rest of his life. The adult he will be tomorrow is based on the action you take today.
Hi, I’m Oana and I am a freelancer and stay at home mom. My child changed my life and because of him I started my freelancing experience. I like to be educated and I love to read parenting books. I have participated to many parenting training and courses to know how to choose the best option for my family. I believe that the future will be better only if we educate our children and educate ourselves.