All of we know that there is no particular definition or accurate method of good parenting. However, following a few ideal parenting tips could bring a lot of happiness and strengthen a child-parent relationship.
We can’t apply a single parenting method on all kids. Different kids may require different approaches, amount of toughness.
Suppose that we are standing in a Mango garden. You asked me, “how much water shall I provide per tree?” I’d probably say around 30-40 liters per tree. After that, you go to the home and give 30-40 liters of water to a rose plant. What will happen? The rose plant will die.
Exactly! Just like we apply a different amount of water, care, and fertilizers to different trees; we need to keep a different approach to different kids.
1. Stop advising and start training:
Be a trainer who helps kids grow their skills. As a parent, your task is to help your kid at every possible step so he/she can grow and become mature simultaneously.
However, you don’t need to spoon-feed everything to your kid because doing that may rob their opportunities to become responsible.
Instead, you should prefer to do all works with them. Their participation is essential here.
2. Don’t focus on the perfection:
You must resist the feelings of seeing immediate results or perfection in what your kid does. Your intervention and will for the perfection may suppress child’s confidence.
Perfection doesn’t come overnight. It needs practice, many attempts, and yes lots of failures.
3. Give manageable challenges:
Set easy-to-achieve challenges and see how your child performs. It will give you a slight idea of your child’s abilities. You can increase the difficulty level of challenges on a weekly basis.
4. Encourage and teach self-encouragement
Almost every person in this world needs encouragement, so do our kids. Encouraging words not only keeps them more positive and inspired, but it also gives them an inner voice which will eventually turn into self-encouragement.
5. Speak about their efforts and not the results:
Provide positive feedback on particular things that they have control over, such as determination, effectiveness, or something they are good at.
There is no need to highlight things that are beyond their control, such as being wise in spending money or keeping cleanliness.
The “4 Fs” of Productive Parenting:
Focused: Be focused on the plan. The way we punish our kids surely create a long-lasting effect on their mind. Therefore, we need to create a straightforward strategy when it comes to punishment.
Fair: There shouldn’t be one common punishment for all offenses. In fact, the punishment should fit the type of crime. Similarly, if the child repeats the same mistake again & again, the outcomes should be explained in advance, so the kid understands the things that need to be avoided. Hard punishments are not something to go with.
Firm: Outcomes must be stated clearly and then stuck to when the improper behavior happens.
Friendly: Use a warm yet strong speaking style when a kid misbehaves. A friendly reminder stating the consequences works best.
Remember, parenting requires a certain amount of responsibility.
If we truly want to give our children a proper childhood, then we must first change ourself into a friendly and generous human being.
What strategies do you follow to become an ideal parent? Share your thoughts with everyone by using the comment box. Who knows, your idea might turn into an inspiration for some readers.
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